Roberta Macdonald » Upset

Survey for Women 40+

Roberta — Sun, 13 Jun 2010 18:22:12 +0000

Women: If you answer yes on 4 or more to my survey check the new Summer Support Group you can join:

Am I stressed? YES NO

Do I worry too much? YES NO

Do I have trouble sleeping? YES NO

Do I take things too personally? YES NO

Do I want more time for me and less time helping everyone else?

YES NO

Do I need to learn how to say “no”? YES NO

Do I want more of a social life? YES NO

Do I get upset at little things? YES NO

Do I want to be more clear about my direction and goals?

YES NO

If you answered YES on 4 or more you need to join our “Girls, We Can Do This- Together” Summer Support Group.* We will meet 7 times this summer – on Monday nights from 7-8 pm and the first one is FREE.

* See my flyer under NEW CLASSES or call me at 253-941-2124.

Stressful Thinking vs Better and Different Thinking

Roberta — Thu, 03 Jun 2010 15:52:21 +0000

Dr. Bernie Siegel is an expert on stress helping his patients with the various stressors that plague us in our physical life here on earth. He is a medical doctor, has written many great books, and has been around for awhile. I believe he is now in his eighties and still helping his world. He uses a wonderful philosophy to help and heal his patients. He believes that the body and the mind are a unit, bound together via nerves and messenger molecules. He says that love, hope, peace of mind and joy have physiological consequences, just as depression and despair do. That is what the science of mind/body communication is all about.

I accept that stress is a part of our lives and, at the same time, I can learn to minimize it and respond differently to it: I often “wear stress as a coat” and take it off as soon as I can instead of taking it in–internalizing it–and making it “mine”. I didn’t always know how to do this. Stress used to do a number on me ! Thank you, Dr Bernie Siegel for teaching me a better and different way to think and act !

Go the “Distance” From Upset to Joy: 3 Minutes

Roberta — Tue, 06 Apr 2010 23:26:50 +0000

What does that mean? How do you go the distance from upset to joy in three minutes? It isn’t easy but it is simple and you can do it. If it takes a long time to get over an upset and you tend to take things too personally you will want to try this. Try practicing the art of ”placing the problem outside of yourself”: put it on the “shelf”, write about it in a journal, and make it as small as you can (like a grain of sand).

Going the distance from upset to joy is something to be practiced (training yourself to get better and better as you practice). You need: (1) the awareness when you are getting upset and beginning to react to someone or something; (2) realize that you have had many upsets in your lifetime and most have worked out…resolved later…and this upset, too, shall pass. You really don’t want to waste any valuable time being unhappy, do you? (3) Know that when you have scattered or negative energy, no one wants to be around you (you don’t want to be around you!) so you need to change to positive energy. (4) Teach yourself to breathe in a beautiful color very slowly and deeply until your chest and stomache are relaxed. You will be surprised that a smile is (almost) on your face and when you think of something or someone you love…and 3 minutes later…it is there: Joy.