Roberta Macdonald » Upset http://robertamacdonald.com/blog Anger and Stress Management Thu, 30 Sep 2010 02:35:46 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 Go the “Distance” From Upset to Joy: 3 Minutes http://robertamacdonald.com/blog/2010/04/06/go-the-distance-from-upset-to-joy-3-minutes/ http://robertamacdonald.com/blog/2010/04/06/go-the-distance-from-upset-to-joy-3-minutes/#comments Tue, 06 Apr 2010 23:26:50 +0000 Roberta http://robertamacdonald.com/blog/?p=66 What does that mean?  How do you go the distance from upset to joy in three minutes? It isn’t easy but it is simple and you can do it.  If it takes a long time to get over an upset and you tend to take things too personally you will want to try this. Try practicing the art of  ”placing the problem outside of yourself”: put it on the “shelf”, write about it in a journal, and make it as small as you can (like a grain of sand).  

Going the distance from upset to joy is something to be  practiced (training yourself to get better and better as you practice).  You need:  (1) the awareness when you are getting upset and beginning to react to someone  or something; (2) realize that you have had many upsets in your lifetime and most have worked out…resolved later…and this upset, too, shall pass.  You really don’t want to waste any valuable time being unhappy, do you? (3) Know that when you have scattered or negative energy, no one wants to be around you (you don’t want to be around you!) so you need to change to positive energy.  (4)  Teach yourself to breathe in a beautiful color very slowly and deeply until your chest and stomache are relaxed.  You will be surprised that a smile is (almost) on your face and when you think of something or someone you love…and 3 minutes later…it is there: Joy.

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