Fair Discipline

Have you ever wondered how you might discipline your child without resorting to punishment?

There is a major difference between the effect that discipline and that of punishment have on a person no matter how big or small. Discipline provides a framework to train someone to behave favorably.
Punishment is used to inflict some pain for past behavior hoping to discourage such behavior in the future.  

I believe Discipline is the Kindest Gift You Can Give Your Child!

The following are 15 of my thoughts and tips to assist you in using fair discipline in your home with your children.

1. Love and discipline go hand in hand.
2. Love, without discipline can create a self-centered, demanding child who feels entitled to get what he or she wants.
3. A child, or adult, who is treated in a respectful manner will be more apt to show respect. Begin this “training” at the earliest age.
4. Children who don’t feel loved resent discipline. 
5. Discipline, without love, creates deep resentment in the child because all he or she really wants is love.
6. Fair discipline is a benefit rather than a punishment for your  child.
7. When you use discipline on your child, do not be angry.
8. Be firm and clear in your message to your child. When you use an assertive, respectful, non-angry tone and manner you will get more respect from your child.
9.  Practice, along with consistency and assertiveness will show positive results.
10. Children want their parents to discipline them: set boundaries, be fair, and tell the truth.  The child may not know or admit they want this.
11. Parents who don’t discipline create a chaotic family situation.
12. In order to get your child to mind you, use good judgment rather than stronger punishment.
13. From a very early age be aware if you are coddling, acquiescing, or overprotecting. 
14. You may think you are giving the child love. 
15. It is not fair to the child if he or she has power over others.  They don’t know how to use it or control it.

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Love,
Roberta

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