4 Tips to Help your Child Adjust to Divorce  

Can divorce have a negative effect on my child later in his or her life?

There’s no doubt that a divorce can be a strain on every member of the family. Sometimes it’s tough to look on the bright side and see that it can be the best choice for future happiness.

Children are usually hit the hardest by the divorce. If they’re young, they may not be able to fully grasp the subject. Also, no matter what age they are, their first instinct is generally to blame themselves. The helpful news is that you can do a lot to get your child through this tough time.

4 tips to Help Your Child Adjust to Divorce

1. If divorce is not discussed with the child, it will be very confusing for him or her. Unanswered questions over the years often have damaging results.
2. There may be much confusion in the child’s mind when there is abrupt change of schedules and the absence of a parent. If the broken marriage was completely shielded from the child and the marriage seemed happy from the child’s perspective, it adds to the confusion. It will be much harder for the child to understand.
3. However difficult it may be to explain divorce to the child, it needs to happen as some explanation is better than having a confusing void in the child’s mind. Inappropriate details that are adult in nature can be left until later when the child is older.
4. Divorce that is not handled in the right manner results in a trauma that can leave lifelong scars.

Like most of us, you have more questions and the problems you are facing do not always have simple solutions. Divorce has a huge impact on everyone involved no matter how careful you may be.

Get more of my personal tips on how to help your children with divorce with this free download.  Parent Tips: Divorce

I answer questions such as:

1. Should we make a child choose between their mother and father?
2. Is it possible to have a divorce where everybody “wins”?
3. What if either of us remarries and the child feels unwanted?
4. How can I show my child they are still important?

Once you have read through the tips, please leave a comment in this Facebook group. Let us know, have you tried these tips? What strategies have you used that worked well for you? What have you tried that really did not work?

Divorce can certainly throw off your life’s expectations, but it doesn’t have to affect how you raise your children. Remember their needs, too, and you’ll both persevere through this trying time.

If you would like additional information, let me know. I will respond to you personally.

Roberta
Roberta@RobertaMacdonald.com

My Book: Parent Success: 99 Ways to Make It Happen, was written and used in many parent classes in the greater Seattle area for over 30 years. Roberta wrote the Parent Success book so that parents who are burdened with many parenting challenges and unexpected stressors will have a simple daily guide.

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